Possibly you are lonely because you are living in a nuclear family with your husband busy with his work and the children busy with their studies. Women of a joint family have too much of company, so their problem is usually that they want to be alone. But they can also be lonely while living in a large joint family.
These people who like to be alone, but when this "lonely", seems to be a punishment, you want the company, it has become a lonely, lonely changed, it would harm. It hurt the most when there is possible, you can have company, but do you think other people choose not to be with you. Then the implementation of the lonely I'm sorry you feel that you are surprised.
This is mostly the case with women whose husbands remain very busy with their work. Women feel that such husbands have a choice and if they wanted they could spend time with them. This sort of loneliness seems more like a punishment because the emotional trauma is there that your husband does not love you.
If there are teenage children and they are not ready to give time to you, it can be very frustrating. The same child who could not live without you for a minute, now has a separate life of his/her own in which you do not figure at all. Of course, you will feel hurt because your own flesh and blood is not giving you the time and consideration which is a part of expressing love.
In joint families can, you have to do a lot of work. You may have to take care for the elderly and is a great family. If you feel that you will not be used by your parents and your husband on your side, you're bound to feel, the more lonely, because you feel abandoned by your own husband. This feeling of neglect is the main reason for the loneliness, if a woman lives in a family where other family members.
To beat this loneliness there are steps we can follow that will make the loneliness bearable.
1) The first thing is to be prepared for loneliness. If you are ready for it and accept it, loneliness becomes easier to bear. For this the romantic blinkers of the Mills and Boon type has to be removed and the mind should be made to accept that the husband will not stand with a rose for you and be chivalrous all the time.
He has to work and that obsession to get success and prosperity can be very time-consuming as the world has become very competitive. Once this acceptance is there, you will not blame your husband and he will not become fed up with you. On the other hand, your acceptance will make him understand your loneliness better.
2) Do not expect anything from anyone, not even by your husband and children. They have in no way take over the contract period, to entertain you, so you can not get bored and lonely. They have run their own lives, and they can give a certain amount of business, but you should not expect their goal only to be, you will live free from the feeling of loneliness. If there is no expectation that there will be no disappointment.
3) Being self-sufficient is the main way you can remove loneliness. You should stop depending on others. You should be ready to fend for yourself. If you are complete in yourself and don’t need others you will not become like a creeper depending on the main tree, rather you will be capable of being a support to others to lean back on.
They would complete self-sufficiency in themselves. They would take responsibility for your own feelings, whether they are of happiness or sadness or loneliness. This self-sufficiency will help you to manage on their own and that you need for other freely. You do not stop loving. You do not stop expressing your feelings. Everything you need to do is that, whether alone or with someone, you should be content and peaceful with oneself, another person without feeling the guilt for what you feel or not.
4) You should think less and become a woman of action. What is the use of thinking and wounding yourself that, “Nobody loves me. Poor me, I am lonely.” Find the solution yourself there and then. Don’t think but get up and do something that you like. When there is no time for such useless thinking and you are fruitfully occupied, loneliness will have to be quite away from you.
5) So, what is important is that you develop your own hobbies which you love to do and see to it that your time is well spent and you are not lonely. Whether it is gardening, reading or any other activity which you relish even though it gives no profit, then it will also help you remove loneliness.
6) will be better, of course, to do some work so that you earn. The only requirement is that it uses time, you are free if you are not career-oriented, keen to build your ambition to life. Of course, nothing can stop to have a comprehensive career, if you have ready. Do not take care of their children, but a clear conscience, the transfer of responsibility to others.
7) Helping others in your free time will also help whether you just sit and talk to an old neighbour who has no one or visit a hospital to cheer people up. Seeing the condition of others can end self-pity and martyrdrom and so loneliness seems hardly a punishment but just empty space to fill up with fun and action. So, what you need to do is to keep busy.
It is important to be positive and not negative in attitude. Translated into action it means that you should see the bright side of things and hope and have faith that the things you are deprived of will come to you soon. Hope and faith can pull you through the worst conditions.
9) Be kind and think of how tried your son is after his tuitions and how weary your husband is after his work.
10) What is essential is that you stop thinking as being a martyr. You feel that you are blessed by the circumstances and life. At least, you have a husband. At least, you have a child.
It is worse for those who live all alone without a family. But then one has to manage. Such people should stop thinking of limits.
You should feel that the world is your family. This may be difficult but when you include others within the purview of mind, you will always be with the feeling that you have company. It will also keep you busy and so loneliness will be pushed away.
Thus loneliness is a state of mind that you should take up as youe own duty to manage and not wait for others to help you out. It is all a matter of mindset and you can make your will-power dictate to your mind and heart to do something when you feel lonely so that you don’t slip into self-pity.